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Does anyone have experience in Khmer weddings?

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Hi all,

I'm looking for western women in Phnom Penh who have been married locally. Any advice, tips, survival strategies?

I'm willing to have a moderately Khmer wedding, but have already advised the in laws I won't wear drag-queen make up and don't require a wall of speakers at the reception. They are quite flexible about these things, but I also want to know what else I'm in for and how to manage all the preparations and details in a language I'm not exactly fluent in.

Any advice would be appreciated so much!!

Monika

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hi Monika
Speak to this man... He is an easy guy to talk to. don't be fooled by the hard looking man in the photos.

http://www.thephnompen.com/2007/06/khmer-wedding-protocol.html

http://www.thephnompen.com/2008/02/big-wedding.html

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I believe she said WOMAN knucklehead :roll:

And trust me, that guy is as hard as they come. Puzzled

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you are gonna pay for that one gay man...do NOT edit ADMIN posts...its the best way to lose your MOD status...very quickly...

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All I know about khmer weddings is to avoid them like the plague,noisy,drawn out,tacky and expensive.
One khmer custom I hate almost as much as robbery.

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Lol... If ur gonna avoid a Khmer wedding, then y not just avoid Cambodia altogether....

I LOVE Khmer weddings great fun! Vive La Difference... and don't be offended when half the guests come for two free beers and leave with a doggy bag... focus on the ones that stay!

Cruise the Western owned bars around riverside... most of the ex-pats will genuinely help you AND have English speaking wives/husbands. (There are a few of each). I forget the name but I know there is ONE that ahs an English girl who married a Khmer here. One block off riverside, around #136 (Give or take).

Sorry, shiite answer but u don't seem to be getting anything more constructive here...

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You have to be Bloody joking,some cultural differences are a bridge too far...

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anthony wrote:
you are gonna pay for that one gay man...do NOT edit ADMIN posts...its the best way to lose your MOD status...very quickly...

He's the only one doing any work around here lately.

THE KID

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I think the lack of western women responding to this post pretty much gives you your answer Monika- not as many western women marry local here and the EAS board is also predominantly dudes.

However to follow up on a post above- I believe there is an Australian woman in a relationship (not sure if they are married) who runs the yo clothing shop on street 136 just off the river (across from Lemongrass). She might be a good place to start?

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You can contact Sonja at Danciong Roads Dirt Bike tours http://www.dancingroads.com/ . She married Paeng.

Monika,
You and I have already spoken via PM months ago and then again recently. I hope you got onto the band and all is going well. Maybe it has already happened ? I am sure it hasn't because I have not seen my invite ! :twisted:

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EAS board is also predominantly dudes.

There are just as many female users on the forums, just not as vocal. many of the gals just read and move on

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my cousin married a cambdian last June, but she's not in PP anymore.
Actually they're not officially married because of the suspension that you heard about.
though they did all the ceremonies.

can give her email if you like.

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well, apparently the man pays for everything, but the lady (or her father, rather) provides the family home, or land for the family home ... good luck negotiating that one, heh

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I found this today. Thought it was appropriate

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I think you should get into it and go the whole hog (I have. Twice.). You never know you might actually enjoy it, although I am a man (which still meant 7 and 9 costume changes respectively). Both times I had Westerners as bridesmaids/groomsmen. They had a great time. Plus you will get MEGA brownie points from your spouse, his family, friends etc if you go Khmer stylee. You can get away with just the monks doing a blessing, I believe, but that means you won't get a huge pile of garish photos and hours of dvd for your spouse's family to show off, which is very important to them. However, my main piece of advice is: Make sure you have a guard in your house. Robbers stole stuff from our house while we were doing the morning line-up. As far as preparations go, the wedding shops (like tailors shops which do all the wedding gear) are pretty much one-stop shops for all wedding needs. You just tell them what you want. I am sure you could find one that speaks English, but I would suggest you keep you face out of it and do it through your intended as this may mean it will be less expensive.

Mark: I don't think Khmers are the only people to have expensive, tacky weddings. I have been to some pretty awful Western ones.

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